All of us have goals.
We all have dreams, aspirations and things that we want to achieve before we die, whether that be to travel, start a family, have a successful career, and so much more. There are so many things that I want to accomplish in my lifetime that sometimes it can actually become quite overwhelming.
The other week, I was having a bit of a low day. The weather was bleak and miserable, I felt tired and stressed and everything that I was trying to do that day wasn't turning out right. I ended up getting frustrated with myself and all of these unwelcome thoughts popped into my head. 'You're not working hard enough', 'you should have finished this by now', 'everyone else is doing more than you' etc etc etc. All it took was one crappy day and I was beating myself up for not having achieved everything humanly possible in my 22 years.
I think social media plays a big part in this. We're constantly absorbing other peoples lives and most of the time, it's only ever the good bits. It's always the achievements, the holidays, and the milestones that people share, not many people will want to tweet or post a picture on instagram about their crappy days (although I admire the people who do). I'm constantly looking at the lives of people (most of which are older than me) who have and are achieving so much, and whilst that stuff is inspiring and motivating, it can also make you feel like you need to catch up and be at the same point that they are. I forget that actually, these people weren't always successful. They worked for years and years before they got to the position that they're in now, it didn't just magically happen overnight. And I also forget that most of the people I look up to are in a completely different stage of life than me. I'm 22 years old yet I constantly compare myself to people who are older than me, and then beat myself up about the fact that I haven't achieved everything they have.
I should be proud that I'm actually working towards my goals. That every paragraph I write or every place that I visit brings me one step closer to the life that I want to have. I forget to stop and actually consider where I am in my life at this moment in time. Currently, my main priority right now is university. I'm in my second year and even though I have endless essays and assessments, I'm still putting myself down because I haven't achieved everything else that I want to. Really, I should stop and consider that maybe I haven't written a novel yet because I haven't had the experience that inspires my story. Maybe I haven't travelled anywhere because I haven't met the person I'm going to travel with.
Basically, we need to stop beating ourselves up. We need to stop comparing every aspect of our lives to everyone else's and if you haven't achieved something that someone else has, that's OK! If you haven't achieved your endless lists of goals, that's fine. What matters if that you're working on them, and that's an achievement in itself.