Wednesday, 23 March 2016

Just Say... No?

How many of you reading this always try to please people? I know I do. If someone asks me to go out for drinks and I'd rather sit in my pyjamas and read a book, I still go out. If someone asks me to lend them something, and I don't particularly want to because it's something quite special to me, I'll still lend it to them. At times this can be considered a good thing. I love making my friends happy and I know that if they knew I really didn't want to do something, they would never make me. But there's been instances, say when it's someone who I know but aren't particularly close with, where I feel like I can't say no for fear of them disliking me or being annoyed at me, that I always end up saying yes. 

This is definitely not a good thing when it comes to the workplace. On one level it's great that you're willing to get involved and help out, but on another level, I can almost guarantee that people will take advantage of the fact that you always say yes. I had occasions where I ended up doing ten things at once and other people were doing nothing, simply because I didn't want to say no to helping any of them out. It's only now that I'm finally realising... it's okay to SAY NO!
If you would rather stay in than go out drinking, then it's okay to turn it down. If you would rather go to bookstore than go clothes shopping, it's okay to do that! As long as you explain to the person asking, in a nice way, that you don't particularly want to do something, but you'd happily do something else, then they should accept that. If they moan or dislike you because of it, then they are not your friends. If they really cared about you, they would respect your decision and not expect you to do things that don't make you happy!

I'm trying my hardest to start saying no when I don't want to do something. It's usually better if you suggest something different you can do together, rather than just saying no and making no effort to see them. But I think a lot of us need to start focusing on our own happiness, rather than trying so hard to make others happy!

Is this something you find yourself doing?
xxx

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16 comments

  1. Love this post, very motivational and so true.
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    Serein
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  2. I used to be this way and I still have a hard time saying no but I have gotten so much better at saying it, I just don't even care what people think now, if they have a problem then they should say something!

    Meme xx


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    1. Me too I still struggle sometimes but I feel like my friends understand so it's getting a lot easier! :) xxx

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  3. This is definitely a problem that I have had in the past. Now I am much better at saying no but I see all around me everyday people who find this difficult. Great post!

    LEACH | www.theleachlife.com

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    1. Thank you! I know I'm still struggling with it myself! :) xxx

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  4. This was such an interesting read and I definitely had that problem too in the past! Thanks for sharing this post lovely :) x

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  5. This used to be me, up until recently I learnt to start saying and it has made such an impact on me as a person. Hard but well worth it!

    Parie x
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    1. Me too it's definitely making my life much happier! :) xxx

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  6. Well, this was me a couple of years ago.. I wanted to please everyone but then I realized that I was not happy with these decisions and I started doing whatever I felt doing to please myself first. We only have one life and we are going to live it as we want. New follower here :)

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    1. Completely agree! I got to the point where I was saying yes to things I didn't want to do and was miserable because of it so I'm trying my hardest to stop! Thank you, I'm so glad you like my blog! :) xxx

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  7. I feel like this - sometimes it's just that I have other commitments/financial strains but I don't want to be a downer! I need to start learning! I think my blog is one area I'm able to say 'no' with because I'm pretty clear on what I do/don't want and what I can/can't do - I need to transfer it to other parts of my life haha xx

    Jasmine Talks Beauty

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    1. I'm the same! I'm terrified of seeming boring or less fun if I say no to something, it definitely needs to change ahah :) xxx

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  8. nice post,i agree with you,to make someone else happy is a good step but not at the expense of ourselves.

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