Monday, 12 June 2017

5 Things Not To Say To Someone With Acne

I've kept it no secret on this blog that I've struggled with acne since my early teens. For years I have been struggling to get my skin under control and feel confident when I walk out of the house, and over these years I've had many people share their opinions on my skin with me. Whether it's name-calling, suggestions of treatments, or just simply pointing out to me 'hey, did you know you have a lot of spots', if it's acne-related, I've heard it. I thought I would write a post today of some of the things that myself, and other acne-suffers, don't particularly want to hear!

YOU WEAR TOO MUCH MAKEUP… I mentioned in my previous acne post the story of a girl in college who one day out of the blue told me I wore too much makeup and that I looked 'plastic' and 'fake' because of it. I had absolutely no idea how to respond and I ended up in tears when I got home that day. 

If someone wears a lot of make-up, and you can quite clearly see they have skin issues, don't comment on it. Their wearing of makeup doesn't affect you in any way, and pointing out something they are already insecure about is so unfair and unnecessary. I don't believe this girl meant in a malicious way, but really, what good could possibly come of telling that? No one has the right to voice negative opinions on someone else. We all think them, but do we have to voice them? More specifically, do you have to voice them to that person? NO. If someone wants to wear a lot of makeup, or they want to go barefaced, that is their choice and nothing to do with anyone else. 

DO YOU NOT WASH YOUR FACE?… I think this is one of the most common things said to someone with acne and it is probably the most ridiculous. It's a common thought that people with acne must seem to just not wash their face, when in reality it could not be more of the opposite. People with acne most likely over wash their face, in the vain attempt of stripping their skin of any and all oils. People with acne are not dirty, nor should you ever assume that they are.

THEY’RE JUST SPOTS… I've had this said to me a lot of times and usually it's by people who are trying to help. I completely understand that this might help someone to feel less insecure about their spots and realise that they're more common than they think, but for me personally it always made me feel like I was being over-dramatic about my acne. Acne can become all someone ever thinks about. You can't brush them off because to you they're not just spots, and they affect your confidence, your mental health, your life. I've been at a point where I wouldn't leave my house because I could not conceal the acne I had, and I think unless you've been in that position yourself it's going to be difficult to understand why this isn't the best thing to say.

YOU’LL GROW OUT OF THEM EVENTUALLY… Similar to the previous point, this is usually said as an effort to help someone feel better, and for some people they will grow out of them. The thing is though, this doesn't happen for anyone. You might think by the time you get to twenty and your hormones settle down that so will your skin, but that's not always the case. I pinned a lot of hope on this as I was growing up, and when I realised my spots weren't going anywhere by themselves it was definitely a blow. If anything I think my skin got worse as I got older, and it's heartbreaking to realise this. 

HAVE YOU TRIED….? Okay this one is definitely not as bad as the others. I've included it on this list because I think it's important to be aware that if someone has acne, it's pretty likely they've tried a lot of products/treatments/pills etc., and it can become tiresome when people tell you of this amazing product that cleared their skin and you just know it won't work for you. It might be better to wait and see if the person with acne asks for any recommendations, and then tell them what worked for you. That way, they've brought it up themselves, and they don't feel as though their acne is as obvious as they would if you outrightly comment on it. 

I’m sure there’s lots of people out there who may have said these things and never meant them in a harsh way, but I can only talk about my experiences and for me personally, I didn’t want people to talk about my acne. I wanted nothing more than to hide it away and unless I brought it up myself, people discussing it with me made me feel like I was on show. Acne can be a sensitive subject, so hopefully this will encourage people to be a bit more mindful of that!
xxx


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  1. I love this post! I've never really suffered with bad acne, but it has always been persistent, and I remember being in a biology class and the teacher made implications that washing your face would get rid of bad skin/acne and I felt all eyes turn to me! It was a really horrendous experience, but as I've grown older I've simply learned not to care what other people think or say!
    Rebecca

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    1. That teacher had absolutely no idea what they were talking about! Yes a good skincare routine can help some people, but simply washing your face is not going to magically get rid of acne! I mean do people like that think that people with acne seriously just do not wash their face? It's ridiculous! I'm sorry that happened to you! I'm really glad you liked this post <3 xxx

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  2. This is something that everyone should read! I never had acne but almost every man in my family had acne. They also said that almost everyone was like "oh hey, why don't you take care of your skin? Your hygiene must be really bad." I definitely show this post to someone who doesn't understand. Thank you for sharing!

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    1. Thank you so much!! I will never understand how someone could say that to another person, it's unbelievable! I'm so glad you enjoyed xxx

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  3. I had pretty bad acne in middle school and had some people make comments about it, which was really annoying for me. My acne went away by high school, so I can't imagine what you have to go through now. Some people can be so inconsiderate and don't understand that if they have nothing nice to say, they should just not say anything. I hope that one day, you can find a product that works and get your confidence back :) You're beautiful, girl!

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    1. Aw thank you so much! I've actually just finished my second treatment of a drug called roaccutane (which is the final resort for people with acne) so my skin is currently the clearest it's ever been! But after 12 years of battling acne it'll always be an important subject to me! Thank you that's so lovely <3 xxx

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  4. I have always been so lucky when it comes to my skin, but growing up my sister really suffered, so I understand where you are coming from!

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    1. It's a horrible thing to deal with! xxx

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  5. People can hurt with their comments, I know what is suffer acne and I never say nothing about what others have on their faces!

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  6. I don't have acne and it sounds awful! I would never say anything hurtful anyway, but now I know what it feels like from your description I kbow what they are going through.
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    1. I'm glad to have helped in any way <3 xxx

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  7. This is so good! Many people are guilty of such comments including me. Not realizing it can have horrible effects on the receiver! Glad you're spreading the awareness !


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    1. I think most people who say these things wouldn't deliberately intend to hurt someone, but it's better to be considerate and remember that it could <3 xxx

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