Monday, 7 August 2017

Why Sometimes You Should Be 'Selfish' And Put Yourself First

I don’t like letting people down. This is something that I’ve hated doing for as long as I can remember. If someone wants me to go out and I don’t particularly want to, I’ll still go. If someone needs help with work or uni, I’ll do as much as I can to help them. If someone wants something that I want as well, it’s most likely I’ll back off and let them have it. Don’t get me wrong, I love doing these things. I’ll always try and help someone in any way I can, but sometimes it can become a bit too much. Whilst I’m sure everyone would love to give as much as they can, from time to time it’s incredibly important that actually, we put ourselves first. Obviously I don’t mean this in the sense that we should all be horrible and never help anybody out, I think it’s an incredible quality to want to help others and more people should do it, I just mean we need to look after ourselves as well. In our normal daily lives, self-care is something that all of us need to do and here are a few reasons why.

YOU’RE GOING TO BE WITH YOURSELF 24 HOURS A DAY, 7 DAYS A WEEK… The only person that is going to be in your life forever, is you. If you’re constantly putting others first, who don’t necessarily reciprocate, you’re going to burn out fast. Whilst it’s important to look after our friends and family as well, you are the only person who can truly look after yourself. If it seems like you’re always putting the needs of others first, and they’re not giving the same back to you, you need to stop doing it. Take the time to work on and take care of yourself, because the people you’re sacrificing your time for might not be in your life in however many years time.

YOUR PHYSICAL AND MENTAL HEALTH WILL BENEFIT… We can all only do so much. If we keep going without looking after our own minds and bodies, we’re going to crash. Putting yourself first every now and then gives you time to re-energise. I know if I have a lots of social engagements all one after the other I end up just having to say no and take some time for myself. If you’re constantly doing things for other people, take an evening off and see how much better you feel.

BY HELPING YOURSELF YOU’RE BETTER PREPPED TO HELP OTHERS… Ever heard the saying ’secure your own oxygen mask first before helping others’? This is so important! Whilst it’s incredibly important to be kind and compassionate towards others, the healthier and happier you are the more you are able to help other people. If you’re constantly exhausted, tired or down, you’re not doing anyone any favours.

THE PEOPLE WHO TRULY CARE ABOUT YOU WILL UNDERSTAND… If you tell someone you want to take an evening to yourself, or that you’re sorry but you can’t help them with their problem right now, and they get annoyed at you or make you feel guilty, they are not the people you want in your life. The people who truly love and care for you will understand if you need to take some time for yourself, because it’s incredibly likely that they need to do the same thing. No one needs people in their life who only take and never give.

Do you find yourself giving too much of your time to other people?




  1. such a nice read ! I in the past gave too much to some people but never got anything back...I learned and I become a little wiser and more careful too.

  2. 'The only person that is going to be in your life forever is you.'
    Really liked that line, I've never thought about it before. One of my goals this year was to learn to say no more and put myself first sometimes. As you said, it doesn't mean we shouldn't help others but once in a while it does us good and even those we want to help to be a little selfish. Great post :)

    Coco Bella Blog

    1. Thank you I'm so glad you liked it! :) xxx

  3. Nice read... I don't like letting people down either, but this motivated me to think about myself too!

    Narhee | Made in Mauve

  4. I think everybody should be selfish from time to time and put themselves first!

    Danielle xx

  5. I'm reading a book at the moment that has just touched on self-esteem. It talks about how you treat yourself, and whether you would ever treat someone else the way you treat yourself. It encourages you to tell yourself that you love yourself every time you remember to. Whether you believe it or not, eventually it will break down the lies that you tell yourself that you are not good enough. It is something that I am trying because, like you say, I am with myself 24 hours a day, 7 days a week!
    Rebecca ♥

    1. I love that <3 I definitely agree, we tell ourselves things that we wouldn't ever tell anyone else and we need to be more kind to ourselves! Thank you for that lovely comment! <3 xxx

  6. Such a lovely post really needed this - thanks for sharing lovely xx Imogen