Wednesday, 31 January 2018

The Quote Every Twenty-Something Needs To Hear

As I move nearer and nearer towards finishing my degree, I’m hearing the question “so what are you planning to do afterwards” by more and more people, far too often than I’d like to. Sometimes, it’s a genuine question and the person asking simply has an honest interest in my plans, but a lot of the time it’s asked in a different way. It’s asked in a way that expects something, as if my answer needs to live up to some sort of unknown requirement. I’m supposed to have a plan. I’m supposed to know exactly what I’m going to do afterwards, with a five year goal and all aspects of my life slotting into perfect place. 
My answer when people ask me this question has changed from a timid, “oh I’m not so sure yet” to a blunt, “don’t ask me that question”. I hate that question. I refuse to think about that question yet. I’m barely making it through my degree without having a meltdown every month, never mind contemplating the future!
Nowadays, there is so much pressure on young people to have a plan. To be moving forward. To constantly be setting and achieving goals. When you add social media into the mix, not only are we struggling with our own lives, we’re now constantly being updated with everyone else’s. And bar the odd few, everyone shows the good bits! They show their achievements, the milestones, the promotions, so why the heck wouldn’t we start freaking out?!
Today, I want to share with all the other twenty-somethings out there the quote that I turn to whenever I start to panic over my answer to this question.

“NOTHING WILL RUIN YOUR 20’S MORE THAN THINKING YOU SHOULD ALREADY HAVE YOUR LIFE TOGETHER”

WHAT DOES ‘HAVING YOUR LIFE TOGETHER’ EVEN MEAN… Am I supposed to be married? Have a 9 - 5 job? Have a kid? All of the above? I don't know. I could have all of those things and be completely miserable, is that still having my life together? People probably mean that by having your life together, you have some sort of plan. You have an idea of where you’re going and you know the things you need to do to get there. If this is you, and you’ve known what you wanted to do with your life since your early teens, then brilliant, go for it! But for all the people out there who are completely winging it, with no idea what sort of job, relationship or milestone lies around the corner, you’re doing just as well!

YOU HAVE ANOTHER 60+ YEARS TO ‘HAVE YOUR LIFE TOGETHER’, TAKE RISKS WHILST YOU’RE YOUNG… I feel like nowadays people can sometimes forget that typically, we’re going to be working for the next 50+ years. We’re expected to come out of education and go straight into a job that will earn good money, provide a career plan, provide security, etc. and if you manage to do that then bloomin’ well done to you. But we have fifty years of work ahead of us, and it is 100% okay to come out of education and not have a single clue what you’re doing next. You do not need to go straight into a job for life. Try different things, travel, see your friends, make memories, take risks, start a business, fail at starting a business, start another … do all of the things that in the future you might not be able to do. For most people, we have much less responsibilities in our twenties, so why not use this time to go a bit wild? I’m not saying sit on your bum doing nothing all day, definitely don’t do that, but don’t freak out over not having the perfect job straight away. Allow yourself the chance to try new things.

THERE ARE MILLIONS OF JOBS OUT THERE, HONESTLY… I sometimes have to remind myself when I’m looking at potential career options that the world of jobs is bigger than I could possibly imagine! There are so many weird, obscure, and wonderful jobs out there that for the majority of the time never even enter our minds. If you typed into google something like ’random jobs’, I bet you would discover so many potential routes for you to go down. And not only that, but new jobs are being created every day! It wasn’t too long ago that blogging and youtube were never considered jobs, and now look at those platforms?! There are so many weird and wonderful things for you to try in the world, so honestly, if you have no idea what to do, don't panic.

Your twenties are the perfect time to experiment, have fun, make mistakes, fall in love, fall out of love, mess around, try different things, fall in love again, make memories and just live. As long as you’re not putting strain on those around you, you’re looking after yourself and not hurting anyone, go for it. Whether you’re already in your dream job by the time you’re 25, or you start each day not having a clue what’s ahead of you, as long as you’re happy in what you’re doing, that’s all that matters.
xxx


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  1. Very good post! I am speechless and definitely feel a lot better reading that. Such wise words! :)

    Jaydee xo
    justmejaydee.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Oh wow thank you! That's so kind of you to say <3 xxx

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  2. Love this!! I always hated when people asked that question. Sometimes I still feel like I don't know what I'm doing with my life!

    Jennifer
    Effortlessly Sophisticated

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    1. I'm so glad you liked it! <3 Trust me, you're not alone - I have absolutely no idea what I'm doing every single day! xxx

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  3. I absolutely love this post. I am 24 this year and I still feel like I am running around like a headless chicken!

    Danielle xx
    http://www.fashionbeautyblog.co.uk/

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    1. Thank you so much I'm so glad! Ahaha I'm positive you're doing amazing lovely <3 xxx

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  4. I loved this post! It's been a while since I've finished uni and I still have 0 clue. I'm taking it one day at a time. x

    Sheena
    http://afashionstudentsdiary.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. I'm so glad you liked it! That's definitely the best way to do it <3 xxx

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  5. Totally agree Sam, its much better to just try to live in the moment rather than worry about figuring out every detail of the future!
    x Rubi
    Pose & Repeat

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  6. Take risk your whole life because you have one life and shouldn't be ever thinking that you missed on something.
    miss-uncover.blogspot.com

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