Monday, 28 January 2019

Confidence Is A Result Of Action, Not A Requirement

Back on New Years Eve, I published a post in which I shared a few of my personal favourite motivational quotes, in a bid to start the year on a positive note for both myself and anyone who reads these posts I write! I have a lot of quotes saved on my laptop that I've discovered over the years and have struck a chord with me, and today I wanted to go into a bit more depth with one of the quotes I shared in that previous post;


I'm fairly certain that I discovered this quote whilst on one of my mindless pinterest scrolls, *which thankfully have become fewer recently*, and it was a quote that I instantly found myself connecting to.
Over the past few years I've been working hard to build up my confidence in many different ways, whether that's my physical confidence, mental confidence, confidence in my beliefs, abilities, ambitions... I wanted to make my mind a better place for myself to be. 
When it came to pushing myself, I've always been the kind of person that wanted to feel "ready" to do something, and I definitely still feel that way. I like being prepared for things, I like knowing what I'm getting myself into, and I like to feel confidence in myself and the situation before I do something. A part of myself fully believes that it's 100% okay to take the time to work up to things and build my confidence bit by bit, and I'm comfortable in that belief. It wasn't until I found situations where I might not have the time to build up my confidence beforehand that I found that actually, I was relying on that belief far too much than I personally felt I should've been.

I started to notice that I was teetering on this fine line between genuinely allowing myself time to feel ready and as prepared as I could be for something, and using that as an excuse because in reality I was simply too nervous to push myself beyond where I felt comfortable. I wanted to always have confidence before I did something, and I noticed this wasn't a positive thing for me when it started to transform into the feeling that I simply couldn't do something unless I already had the confidence to do so. I don't think that's how life should work!

Confidence is essentially a belief or faith in someone/something, so surely the majority of the things that sit outside of my comfort zone or that are new to me is something that I won't automatically have confidence in? Why was I holding myself back from experiences that I couldn't possibly know whether I would enjoy or not?

Over time, I started to recognise the difference between something that I simply didn't want to do or have an interest in, and something that I wanted to experience but found myself giving into fear and therefore using the excuse that I wasn't ready for it. And I know that the latter is a silly way to allow myself to think because there are countless times throughout my life where no matter how confident I feel beforehand, it doesn't compare to the confidence I gain from the experience. 

Nowadays, I try my hardest to ask myself, when I feel fear of a situation, experience or adventure that comes my way, am I genuinely feeling aversion or am I simply feeling the completely normal and human emotion of fear of the unknown? And should I therefore allow that feeling to hold me back from an experience that I potentially might enjoy?
This is where I remind myself of this quote and physically force myself to clear my mind, push past that fear, and remember that confidence is not a prerequisite for experiences!



  1. You show a lot of personal growth in this post, Samantha. Confidence is definitely something you act on, and it is not a straight line - so you will feel scared something, and you will feel not ready, but sometimes you have to jump in - and you gain confidence from being strong and brave!

    Julia x
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    1. Thank you! 'Confidence is not a straight line' is a great way to look at it - I love that! <3 x

  2. I always adore your blog posts, I feel like they are speaking right to me!

    Danielle xx

  3. Such an incredible post. Thank you so much for writing this my love!

    Mollie |

    1. Thank you for that lovely comment! I'm so glad you liked it <3 x


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